Wednesday, June 22, 2005

single no more

yes, i know. many of you are disappointed. but let me reassure you that there are many available bachelors out there. granted, none who are as wonderful as yours truly. (i still need to inflate my ego every once in awhile.)

for those living in a cave, i got married almost a month ago.

for those incline to ask me how's married life treating me... well, it's swell. i've been living with deidra for over a year before, so on the domestic front, it's pretty normal. but one thing i've discovered, well, actually i didn't really think about it until deidra mentioned it, is that our relationship has strengthened enormously since we slipped the rings on each others' fingers.

i heard dinner went well. you liked chris's jacket. he reminded you of johnny. before he went electronic.

if anyone know where this bit of lyrics is from without looking it up on the internet... i'll be your best friend. and if anyone knows what it is about... i'll be your best friend with cherry and nuts on top.

we had our wedding ceremony in santa barbara and had the reception at the spiritland bistro, which is an organic restaurant located several blocks from the church.

oh, i forgot to mention beforehand that doing your own wedding is a fucking bitch. if you have the cash, spend it on a wedding coordinator. it's well worth the money. let me put it this way: if i had a choice between dealing with my wedding and getting anally raped by a catholic priest... well it's a tough choice, but at least with being molested by a priest, you can sue and make millions. (yes, i know. that was very wrong.)

so being that the restaurant was a bit small, we could only invite less than 50 guests. luckily for me, i was able to invite most of my close friends, but then they couldn't really bring dates, which wasn't too bad for most of them since many of my friends are single.

hmm... i'm really getting ahead of myself here. let's start from the beginning.

thursday, may 26. woke up early to clean the house and my car. i hate cleaning the house, so that was a bitch. and not to mention that my car was pretty messy. after that we had to pick up her brother and father (along with his new family) from the airport. here's what i don't get. stephen, deidra's brother, and her father, richard, both live in florida... about 40 minutes away from each other. yet, they had the brilliant plan of flying out at different times. one during the day and the other one at night. so we ended up going to the airport twice to pick them up.

of course, some dumbass airport cop pulled me over because i lost my car registration sticker (but i have my registration paper on my rear windshield). luckily for me, he just gave me a warning, but it's not like i didn't have my car registered. "you should really get a new sticker because from far away, we can not tell if that's just a kleenex or not on your rear windshield." fuck you.

when we got to the airport, we discovered that stephen's flight was delayed for two hours. deidra and i ended having lunch at sizzler in culver city. then we went and picked up her brother. i've never met him, but did talk to him on the phone several times. he seems like a really nice guy. it was really funny, the first thing he wanted to do was go to jack in the box. let me say that stephen isn't a skinny guy. and his wife has him on this no fast food diet at home. so as you can guess, he wanted what he can't have, and that's a nice, big, juicy burger.

so after settling in at our apartment, he and deidra went to jack in the box, while i get the pleasure of doing the laundry. yes, it's was great fun. after doing the laundry, i went home with just enough time to rest up a little before going to the airport again to pick up her dad and his family (maria his wife and lis, his step-daughter). here's another thing... why do airlines make things so damn difficult. i understand that different airlines usually combine their flights, but seriously, let the people know which airline the flight is under. her father tells us that he's with delta, but then it turns out to be something like american airlines. so we went to the delta airlines terminal, but couldn't find the flight. finally after talking with the info people, we found out that the flight is actually under AA. great!

so after meeting her father, same story with stephen, never met him but have spoken to him on the phone, we went to budget to get their rental car. after an hour, finally got the car and then as we were heading to their hotel in pasadena, maria needed to go get some aloe vera juice. WTF?!?!?

since it was nearly midnight, it was a bit difficult to find a place with aloe vera juice. we stopped by a 24-hour albertson's but they don't carry shit like that. so finally, we dropped them off at the hotel, and got on our way home. given that our last meal was at sizzler's, we went to in-and-out and got some burgers. stephen was waiting for us at home (he was half-asleep with the tv on). deidra went straight to bed, and stephen and i ate the burgers and shortly after, i went to bed myself.

friday, may 27. woke up, got out of bed, pulled a comb across my head. we got up, early. i hate getting up early. their was excitement in the air however. this was the day we make our journey to santa barbara. happy day! maria still wanted fucking aloe vera juice... fucking aloe vera juice. so deidra and her father went to get it, but they weren't really successful. the places that carried this shit was a bit pricey. anyway, around 11am, we took off. riding with me were deidra, gwen, and duncan, deidra's bride... people. duncan was her friend from utah, and he's really a very interesting guy.

anyway, so midway, we decided to stop because some people (with small fucking bladders) had to make a pit stop. shortly after that, we had to drop by a walmart to get maria her fucking aloe vera juice (yes, i'm going to use fucking everytime i mention fucking aloe vera juice). after getting her goddamn fucking aloe vera juice, maria decided she's about to die because she was hungry. so we went to tgi fridays for lunch. i don't know what she was expecting, but when the food didn't come out within minutes of use ordering it, maria was having a fit. she must live in this little strange fucking world.

anyway, so after lunch, we finally got back on the freeway and arrived in santa barbara. well, techically, it was carpinteria. we stayed at the motel 6 (we'll leave the light on for you). after having a short rest, my wedding party arrived. this consisted of mark, carlin, and jenny. at around 4ish, we finally headed to the church for our wedding rehearsal. unfortunately, maria had the great idea of leaving to get herself a freaking sweater. as we stood there waiting for her, deidra begin to get upset. without maria, her father wasn't going anywhere. so i finally decided for us to leave first and then have her father, along with maria and lis, to come later.

no deidra was not happy. it was a bad moment. a bad start towards the rest of our lives. but anyway, we got to the church a little bit late since there was a bit of traffic. when we got there, mark's parents, my surrogate parents at the wedding, gordon and joshua (our ring bearer), stefana, barbara were already there. after a bit, richard, maria, and lis finally arrived. so we got the show on the road. it was really interesting, our ceremony. it's not your typical ceremony with a lot of unusual stuff going on. hahaha. i can't begin to describe it.

so after the rehearsal, the wedding party went to dinner at this place called gisellas. the week previous, deidra and i went up to sb to have a run-through for her hair style and to look for a place to hold the rehearsal dinner. we ended up having lunch at gisellas and the people who booked the private room canceled so we got lucky.

so after dinner, we distributed gifts to everyone. deidra and i made a little speech which was a bit funny since i'm horrible at it. i got my people each an engraved shot glass, a book, and a snack. deidra was a bit more elaborate and creative with her gifts.

later that night, deidra's group went to a strip club, while mark, carlin, jenny, and myself went back to the hotel. there we drank a bit, and walked about carpinteria cuz i felt like doing so. i remember it being a strange night... the night before i was to be married and never again know what it's like to be with another woman again. well hopefully not, right. ;) i remember just standing on the balcony in front of their hotel room with mark and wondering why the fuck i'm feeling rather strange.

saturday, may 28. the big day. the biggest day of my and i'm assuming deidra's lives. woke up. wasn't feeling strange. but probably excited. it's a really surreal feeling. i remember just lying in bed in my boxers reading the la times sports section. deidra was out and about getting ready to go have the traditional bridal group breakfast. robert, an ex-boyfriend of deidra's, came by with a digital camcorder and asked me several questions... some of which i didn't have a good answer for.

after getting ready, some of the people attending the wedding showed up. it was great seeing my friends. i don't know, there's just this wonderful feeling of joy seeing my friends for some reason. before leaving the hotel, mark, jenny and i had ourselves a beer. i wouldn't say it was to calm myself down, but it was just a thing to do. when you can't think of something to do, it's always good to get a drink. yes. anyway, soon after, my group and i went to santa barbara to try out and pick up our tuxes.

to make a long story short, we tried on our tuxes, then had lunch at this cafe called joe's. i had the open-faced roast beef sandwich. delish. after lunch, i knew that i was running a little late. deidra wanted us to be read by 4pm so we can take pictures. excellent, except, i haven't showered yet and i was feeling a bit disgusting. my plan was for me to go over to the nice hotel that i booked for us for our wedding night and shower there. time was really tight. really, really tight.

mark and i went back to men's warehouse to pick up the tuxes (it would have been foolish to carry our tuxes to joe's now wouldn't it?) and waited for carlin and jenny to pick us up in front of the parking garage. drove back to the church where i left my car and i headed off to the hotel.

nice. king size bed with a jacuzzi.

so took a quick shower and headed back to the church. by this time it was about 3:40pm. i have about 20 minutes to put on my wedding gear. it's actually pretty fun putting on a tux. joshua, the ring bearer, looked so damn cute in his little boy tux. so around 4pm, i went downstairs to get some pictures taken.

what i didn't know and i should have known, but i'm stupid like that, was that women take a lot of time to get prepared. our photographer(s) sandhya, who is my friend since college and her partner, jigar, was already taking pictures. sandhya went up to where deidra was getting ready and took tons of pictures. i was getting a bit antsy since there wasn't much to do and stefana took the cd player with her so they can listen to music whilst getting ready.

a lot of waiting. and some more waiting. and then came my beautiful bride. it was amazing. she looked fabulous. so for about 40 minutes, we took pictures. guests started to arrive and i chatted with them since the ceremony didn't start until 6:30pm.

finally, the moment arrived. once again, i'm not going to go into too much detail. everything was good. hahaha. for those who weren't there, well... your lost.

so anyway, after the ceremony, we took more pictures and then headed out to the reception.

god, i'm tired of blogging. hahaha. maybe i'll write more later. i should really get back to starting on my thank you letters.

ciao.

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