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i'm not a very philosophical person. i tend to hate thinking about things. i hate that about myself. i admire people who can think, or more correctly, philiosophize about something and have very enlightened discussions on various topics.
i wouldn't say (or at least wouldn't want to admit) that i'm basically a simple person, with very simple thoughts. for some reason or another, i can't seem to have very serious discussions. i just get bored with the whole thing. maybe it has something to do with being a mature person, which i unfortunately can't say that i am.
i find it difficult to communicate my empathy for others, even though i do feel empathy for them. i find things to be funny even though they might not be. i don't know why that is, and i'm not going to bother finding out why. most of the time when someone tells me about their personal problems, all that pops into my head is god, i hope they can't see that my brain is not registering what they are saying.
another thing that i tend to do when being in a serious conversation is to divert my discomfort (or maybe insecurities) with humor. i don't think i've ever had a conversation with someone dealing with some problem that doesn't involve me making a wisecrack here and there. never. i can't do it. i don't know how poeple feel about it, but it certainly lowers my anxiety level.
i'm terrible at giving advice in the abstract. i think i'm good with giving logical advice. things that are structured, i'm pretty good at. but when you have problems that deal with emotions, i'm at a complete lost. i think i would basically go straight to the logical mode and find the simplest solution to the problem, when it's basically the worst advice you can give to that person. i try my best to shy away from giving a straight answer and flip-flop between solutions.
i wonder what people will think about this posting. if people don't want to come to me with their personal problems after reading this, they are the more better for it. i wouldn't blame them, i wouldn't want to take my advice either.
i wouldn't say (or at least wouldn't want to admit) that i'm basically a simple person, with very simple thoughts. for some reason or another, i can't seem to have very serious discussions. i just get bored with the whole thing. maybe it has something to do with being a mature person, which i unfortunately can't say that i am.
i find it difficult to communicate my empathy for others, even though i do feel empathy for them. i find things to be funny even though they might not be. i don't know why that is, and i'm not going to bother finding out why. most of the time when someone tells me about their personal problems, all that pops into my head is god, i hope they can't see that my brain is not registering what they are saying.
another thing that i tend to do when being in a serious conversation is to divert my discomfort (or maybe insecurities) with humor. i don't think i've ever had a conversation with someone dealing with some problem that doesn't involve me making a wisecrack here and there. never. i can't do it. i don't know how poeple feel about it, but it certainly lowers my anxiety level.
i'm terrible at giving advice in the abstract. i think i'm good with giving logical advice. things that are structured, i'm pretty good at. but when you have problems that deal with emotions, i'm at a complete lost. i think i would basically go straight to the logical mode and find the simplest solution to the problem, when it's basically the worst advice you can give to that person. i try my best to shy away from giving a straight answer and flip-flop between solutions.
i wonder what people will think about this posting. if people don't want to come to me with their personal problems after reading this, they are the more better for it. i wouldn't blame them, i wouldn't want to take my advice either.
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