sometimes i get anal about things. especially when people are being stupid and are annoying the hell out of me.
the situation: a friend of mine, chris, emails everyone monday night that he needs help to move some stuff from his old apartment to his new apartment the next day (tuesday). extremely short notice.
excerpt from chris's email:
damn. this is funny because i'm moving tomorrow (tuesday) and was wondering if i could get anybody to help me out for around 2 hours at any point during the day. i've got a uhaul. i can deal with most of the stuff myself. except for maybe the couch (it's an evil couch), the bed, and one or two other things. there won't be any heavy lifting or anything like that.
my other friend, tony, a world-renown flaker, replied to this:
I want to get home by 7:15 or so, so if you are moving at 5:30 or so, I can help. I want a free dinner. ;) j/k
which led to this from chris (at 10:22pm on monday night):
i will be moving some things around 5:30. probably. it depends on when the most people can help. but, i have the truck all day, so i can really do it almost any time.
**** so it's established that chris
will be doing some moving at 5:30pm. ****
another friend, eddie, offered his help as well:
I can probably help out tomorrow after 5ish. I have meetings all day tomorrow so I can't any other time.
at this point, chris believed he had three people helping him, as he addressed the populace (3:13pm, tuesday afternoon):
i think i'll be ok with fran, eddie, and tony. how is 6pm? too late? too early?
since we all know that tony wanted to be home at 7:15pm, and he wanted to start moving at 5:30pm, he should have said something to the above email from chris. like, he would like to start at 5:30 instead. but no... nothing from tony until 5:45pm, tuesday evening. this is what he wrote:
Hi Chris,
Well, Fran and Eddie are both big, and so I don't need me to come now. ;)
6pm is too late for me. Good luck moving!
what annoyed the fuck out of me was that he didn't reply to what chris wrote until 5:45pm? let's say for the sake of argument, that he was in a meeting all afternoon and couldn't email until he is out of that meeting. he could still have written something earlier since he wrote previously that he could help if it was at 5:30pm. he couldn't have called chris or someone to see what was going on at 5:30pm? instead, he emailed at 5:45pm (when none of us were near a computer) to say he wasn't coming. that's just completely irresponsible, especially when someone is counting on his help.
the fact that he stipulated that he can't do it later than 5:30pm is irrelevant in this situation because the point is that he didn't even try to see if chris needed his help. he just sat at work til 5:45pm, when he decided he much rather go home instead (to watch old episodes of,
24, no less) of helping somebody move.
anyway, i'm not the lone one with this view point.
FxXxxXxXXx (11:16:07 AM): are you checking your email?
zxxxxxx76 (11:16:13 AM): yeah why?
FxXxxXxXXx (11:16:21 AM): i was wondering if you see my point?
zxxxxxx76 (11:16:26 AM): yeah i do...
FxXxxXxXXx (11:16:29 AM): okay
FxXxxXxXXx (11:16:30 AM): good
FxXxxXxXXx (11:16:36 AM): cuz i was wondering if i'm just not making any sense
zxxxxxx76 (11:17:07 AM): the way i see it, tony should not have ditched out on helping out just to watch tv...
zxxxxxx76 (11:17:15 AM): especially since he can do that at any time...
FxXxxXxXXx (11:17:16 AM): well yeah
zxxxxxx76 (11:17:18 AM): seems lame to me...
also this:
FxXxxXxXXx (12:02:01 PM): have you been reading the emails?
sxxxxxx12 (12:02:10 PM): on moving?
FxXxxXxXXx (12:02:16 PM): yes
sxxxxxx12 (12:22:03 PM): why?
FxXxxXxXXx (12:22:12 PM): nothing
sxxxxxx12 (12:23:25 PM): still mad?
FxXxxXxXXx (12:23:41 PM): i'm not mad
sxxxxxx12 (12:23:44 PM): so what is going on?
FxXxxXxXXx (12:23:46 PM): i'm just wondering if i had a point
sxxxxxx12 (12:23:59 PM): well I know for a fact that Tony flakes a lot
sxxxxxx12 (12:24:05 PM): so I think its justified
sxxxxxx12 (12:24:18 PM): only I think he said, he was NOT going to make it
FxXxxXxXXx (12:33:12 PM): anyway, tony emails at 5:45 to say he can't do it at 6
sxxxxxx12 (12:34:10 PM): did you really want Tony there?
FxXxxXxXXx (12:34:42 PM): no, it's not about that
FxXxxXxXXx (12:34:53 PM): it's about being responsible
sxxxxxx12 (12:35:31 PM): fuck it who cares, we all know Tony is a lake
sxxxxxx12 (12:35:32 PM): flake
FxXxxXxXXx (12:36:05 PM): yeah, but it's fucking ridiculous
sxxxxxx12 (12:37:03 PM): yeah I agree
there was one person who disagreed with me:
FxXxxXxXXx (11:14:43 AM): do you see my point in regards to the moving thing and tony?
FxXxxXxXXx (11:14:54 AM): it's certainly isn't a big deal
FxXxxXxXXx (11:15:03 AM): which is why i should stop replying to the emails
FxXxxXxXXx (11:15:04 AM): hahaha
CxxxxxXxxx (11:15:06 AM): I still do not agree, but that's ok
FxXxxXxXXx (11:15:15 AM): what dont' you agree with?
CxxxxxXxxx (11:15:20 AM): I chose not to reply
FxXxxXxXXx (11:15:22 AM): i know
FxXxxXxXXx (11:15:36 AM): i figured as much
so that's it. i guess i just wanted to vent. in tony's defense, i ditch him for the gym quite a bit. but then i always let him know, and not like 10 minutes before we were suppose to go.
well, maybe once or twice. :)